one born every minute

28 Aug

Heather Francesca here, we were
lucky enough to feature on this series of ‘one born every minute'(our episode
is on Wednesday 11th january) and I have been wanting to spread the word on my
amazing experience of child birth, yes, thats right, i used the words
‘amazing’ and ‘child birth’ in the same sentence! some of you mothers
out there might think I’m mad but that is honestly the experience I
had! So here goes my story…..

My husband and I run a fashion and styling business called daniel
francesca and have been runnung this for 10 years, as you would expect
in business, its not easy and we have been constantly busy since day
one. We never had time to consider a family of our own until the penny
dropped in late 2010 when we realised that we are in control of our
future and ‘we’ decide what kind of parents we are going to be!

We were told by doctors 3 years ago that it might be difficult to
conceive as I don’t have a menstral cycle, we had all the tests etc
done and no-one could explain why I had no periods, my husband and I
were not worried in the slightest as we knew that timing is always
perfect and that no medical expert is going to dictate our dreams of
becoming parents one day, so we remained positive and December 2010
we conceived, I went the first month without a clue that I was
pregnant,then one day,as I’m sure alot of you mums can relate to, I
just ‘knew’, I told my husband, who rushed out to get a pregnancy test
and sure enough that solid blue line appeared,
shocked,emotional,happy,sad, every emotion you can think of consumed
my body but the overwhelming sense that anything is possible if you
dare to believe was one that will stay with me forever!!

We wanted to take our positive attitude into my pregnancy, so the
first thing we did was write a list of every single little thing that
we were expectant for, from no morning sickness to maintaining a good
sex life( the little things are important)hehe! We had 28 things on
our list that we wanted to see happen and this was a great goal and
test of mental strength not only for myself but in our relationship as
future parents!

So, the first few months breezed past and by our 20 week scan
we were so excited, for years we had always spoke about our little
girl and we were both convinced that I was carrying a little princess,
sure enough as the sonographer hovered around over my tummy, she
turned to confirm our initial thoughts ‘ it’s a GIRL’ funnily enough
this was the same room that years earlier we were told it might never
happen!

With another thing ticked off the list( yes,I know , it may sound daft
but we put we wanted a girl on our list) but if you don’t ask then you
don’t get eh? We found ourselves in the hands of our amazing
midwife,Alison, who whilst taking my temp and blood presssure asked
if we wanted to go on the one born every minute show, ‘yesssss
please’ shouted Danny followed by ‘hold on a minute’ from me, ‘ I
don’t want the world seeing my bits’, Alison then went on to explain
that it is non invasive and that she thought we could help alot of
expectant mothers out there and show that there is another side to pregnancy
that it can be very pleasant, so we agreed and within a few days the
producers were over at our house.

The last trimester was my favourite, knowing that as every day passes
I am one step closer to meeting my little miracle, the week before the
due date the one born every minute team came to do our interviews and
it all suddenly became so real that any day now I get to meet her,I
remained calm and relaxed about labour as my attitude towards
pregnancy had worked so far so why should labour be any different,
then the night of the 16th September the twinging in my belly
started, Danny packed the bags and got into his favourite outfit
declaring ‘i’ve got to look good for tv’ I told him hang on a second,
it’s only a twinge,we’re going nowhere yet!As the night passed, the
contractions became more intense, then at 8am the next morning we
decided it was time to go in! I got my heels on,did my hair and make
up and off we went!

We arrived at Leeds general infirmary and was quickly miked up by the sound crew, we then headed to the delivery suite to be greeted by
several of the crew who at this point i considered extended family
members, we then met our midwife who had to have a double take at this
women standing before her claiming to be in labour whilst wearing high
heels with a full face of make up on,we proceeded to the water
birthing suite where I was examined and found that I was over 4cm
dilated!!ahhhhh

Were goin to be mummy and daddy any time soon I said to Danny, we knew
that this was it, that everything we had hoped and prayed for over
the previous 9months was soon to become reality, although the
cameras were in every corner of the room with crew members in
the gallery watching I felt completely alone with Danny as if it were
just us, then at 3.34 pm On September 17th 2011(on her due date) I
gave birth to my precious angel, Eivissa Cali Greig weighing 7lb7oz,
my labour was amazing and I didn’t require any drugs or gas and air
which again was my wish from the beginning!

Not only did we manage to conceive but I went through the whole
pregnancy with no sickness, pains or anything to complain about, our
attitude towards pregnancy and labour was one filled with positivity
and a sense that if you believe something so much then that really can
come true!!

Looking back, it still brings me to tears thinking about the amazing
wonder of child birth, i am proud to be a woman and proud of all the
other women out there that have been through or are about to go
through this beautiful experience, i commend you and we all need to
celebrate one another, no matter what the experience!!

The message I want to share to all the expectant mums or the ones who
are told that ‘they can’t ‘ have children is that ‘positivity and
knowing your own mind, can get you anything you want and not to let
the fear of disappointment stop you from believing it can happen’

Thanks for taking time out to read this!

Kind regards

Heather Francesc

Www.heatherfrancesca.wordpress.com
Twitter @heatherfrancesc
Facebook heatherfrancesca

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Me, Danny and Eivissa with the brilliant one born every minute team.

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10 Responses to “one born every minute”

  1. Mr WordPress January 4, 2012 at 1:49 pm #

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  2. Clare T January 6, 2012 at 11:34 am #

    Just read this Heather and its really really really lovely. Love you cuz!!! xxxx

  3. Fiona January 6, 2012 at 1:32 pm #

    It is so nice to hear positive birth stories, that there is nothing to fear and just how amazing it is to bring new life into the world. People sometimes forget how much of a priviledge it is. You are completely right, staying positive and knowing what you want for your birth is the best way to give birth. xx

  4. Natasha January 6, 2012 at 3:04 pm #

    This is amazing!!! You are a true inspiration. Love your positivity xxx

  5. Tra Wright Knox January 6, 2012 at 3:15 pm #

    Beautiful! Very encouraging! Love Tra xx

  6. Steph Norton January 12, 2012 at 2:15 pm #

    Hi Heather

    I have never posted a message on a website or similar, but just did a Google search for you after watching your AMAZING experience last night on ‘One Born Every Minute’. Found your website here and just read your story.

    I’m expecting my first baby at the end of March and have written my birth plan – which is basically just like the way that yours went! I want a water birth and want to be ‘in the zone’ and focused on the labour, rather than screaming out, and am actually looking forward to the experience. So after watching you last night, I was in tears throughout and just had to say well done and congratulations! I kept saying to my husband ‘she’s blimmin’ amazing!’.

    Congratulations to you and your lovely husband on the birth of your baby girl and hope you’re enjoying parenthood. I loved watching you and hearing about your life – made me laugh but I think it’s brilliant to have such a positive attitude.

    Steph from Oxford x

  7. Trudi Brannon March 8, 2013 at 10:38 pm #

    Hi, I was pregnant when this episode aired last year and I was struck by how calm and quiet your birth experience was compared to many of the other births on the programme. I knew immediately it was what I wanted too. Your experience inspired me to find out a lot more about my birth options and I learnt about hypnobirthing. I wasn’t able to have a waterbirth but my confidence in remaining calm enabled me to have a calm and relatively pain-free birth experience. Thanks 🙂

  8. hayley probert January 11, 2014 at 11:43 pm #

    Hi heather I’m a really big fan of one born and when I seen your episode and the birth of your beautifull baby girl I was really moved by the experience.I have a 3 year old boy and my labour ended in a emergency c section so I didn’t get the full experience of giving birth.I thought you were amazing and danny was brilliant! I’ve also caught up with one born what happened next and evissa is such a beautiful girl,you and danny are a amazing strong couple and I really admire you both,you are my faveroite couple from one born by far! And you’ve brought tears to my eyes watching you! He he big congratulations on the birth of catalaya she is gorgeous! And when I have my next baby I’ll be buying her wardrobe from you! 🙂
    Hayley north Wales x

    • heatherfrancesca January 14, 2014 at 10:33 am #

      Hi Hayley
      Thank you so much for your lovely comment. Its great to hear feedback from people who have watched the show. We are absolutely in love with our new little girl and we are enjoying being a family of four 🙂 I hope you and your little boy are well and I’ll look forward to hearing your expecting again.
      Heather xx

  9. hayley January 19, 2014 at 8:11 pm #

    thanks heather 🙂 lovely to hear you and your family are all doing well.im constantly watching repeats of one born as ive recorded your episode lol.thank you so much for replying to my comment.hopefully speak to you again soon.
    hayley xx

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