My baby routine from birth to 4 months

23 Jan

You may be suprised to hear that I am a believer in having your baby in a routine, as adults, we live our lives loosely based around some sort of routine, we sleep, work, eat, socialise and sleep, the same applies to our children, its not about the routine itself, its about how we adapt to the routine…

I spent a lot of time reading books, looking at other mother’s routines for their babies and assesing the outcomes. I then picked and adjusted a routine that would best suit me and how I wanted to enjoy parenthood.

For this post, I thought you might be interested to know about my daily routine,I like to call it ‘the portable routine.’ My routine has structure, for example the times of her feed, her awake and nap times and her play times are all pretty much around the same time every day but we are not contained to a specific place, we can take this routine and apply it anywhere.

In the first 2 weeks I didn’t fret about putting Eivissa into a routine as I just wanted to enjoy having this new time of getting to know one another, if she needed feeding, I fed her, if she needed to sleep, I cuddled her, I didn’t want to get uptight about certain things, after all she was a newborn and in the first few weeks its so important to create the bond.

I started a loose routine after 2 weeks when I felt I could work out what her cries were saying and I felt more confident with my breast feeding. It was also at this point when I gave her a pacifier, at first I was reluctant, I thought ‘why is she hungry all the time?’ after process of elimination, ie: she has been fed, changed and had a sleep I realised that she just wanted to suck, so I gave in to my own desires and it worked a treat, it actually helped me monitor when she was hungry and when she just wanted to suckle,for me it worked, but if you can do without, great!

When starting your routine, it can be a little tricky, you’r learning just as much as baby is, so don’t be afraid of a bit of trial and error until your routine sticks, stay focused on how you want to do it and stick to your guns, eventually it will click into place, which makes for a happy mummy and a happy baby.

from 2 to 8 weeks
morning 8.30
feed about 30-40 mins
nappy change
wake 10-20 mins
down for nap

afternoon 11.30
feed about 30-40 mins
wake bath
down for nap

mid afternoon 2.30
feed 30-40 mins
nappy change
wake 10 min
nap quite possibly in car or pushchair

late afternoon 5.30
feed 30-40 mins
nappy change
wake
nap

evening 8.30
feed 30-40 mins
nappy change
wake
down for nap

late evening 11.30
feed 30-40mins
nappy change
down for night sleep and bed for us too

middle of night 2.30
feed 30-40mins
back to bed

early morning 5.30
feed
nappy change
back to bed

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This is the routine I set, I adapted the timing etc, if she fed early the rest of her routine would fit accordingly. I would feed every 3 hours, followed by a little of awake time(of course when they are new born they are very sleepy so they may only stay awake for a few minutes), this helped to teach her that she doesnt need food to fall asleep. the older she got, the longer awake time she wanted.

At 8 weeks old, she started to sleep through the night, at this point her routine became this,

8-16 weeks

early morning 5.00-6.00
feed 15- 20 min
back to bed

morning 8.30
first feed of the day 15- 20 mins
wake play, chat
bath
down for nap

late morning 11.30
feed 10-15 min
nappy change
wake play 20-30 min
out of the house
nap in car/pushchair

afternoon 2.30-3.00
feed 10-15 min
nappy change
wake 20-60 min
nap

early evening 5.30-6.00
feed 10-15 min
nappy change
wake (could be a bit fussy) 30 mins
nap

evening 8.30-9.00
feed 10-15 min
nappy change
wake play on play matt, tummy time 30-60 mins
down for nap

late evening 10.30-11.00
feed 15-20 min
nappy change
down for night sleep
we go to bed

I am now feeding every 3-4 hours and these are rough estimates of times she would feed etc, her feeds don’t take as long now shes older and her awake times are much longer.
During growth spurts and after she had her immunisations we found that she would wake again at night but after 3-7 days she semmed to return to her normal self.

Our routine suits our lives perfectly. For me I like to have the morning to do work and get ready, so we have more of a strict morning routine, then the rest of the day I will take my ‘portable routine’ and implement it where ever I am. If you like to have your evenings to yourself, then have a strict night routine.

My advice is relax!, if baby isn’t quite getting it, then be cool about it, every baby is different and some take longer than others.
Remember, YOU are the mother and YOU know the wants and needs more than anyone else, don’t let anybody tell you what type of mother to be, just be the best you possibly can be for your child.

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